Thank you so much for joining me for my first blog post. Let me start by saying that my name is Kelly and I am a Marriage and Family Therapist. I am new to the blogging world and I will be learning as I go, so please bare with me as I figure this out. Ultimately I would love to create a space where we can discuss the world around us and everything that comes with it in order for us to process what’s going on in our individual lives as well as our collective experiences. Let’s face it, life isn’t easy and we all have something that needs healing, but it is important to remember that it doesn’t matter where we are on our journey just that we are on the right path.
The very first topic I want to talk about is what inspired me to start a blog, which is an episode of The Therapist with Dr. Siri Sat Sam Singh Ph.D, LMFT on Viceland, where the subject was someone who I have been following for years, Corey Taylor of Slipknot. Like many of us who grew up in the late 90’s / early 2000’s I am huge fan of nu-metal, to this day it is my favorite type of music, my iPod is basically stuck in this era filled with all the bands I grew up
listening to. So when I saw a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist give a therapy session to Corey Taylor, it was like having worlds collide for me and it was profoundly moving. Suddenly, these two different parts of my life were coming together in a beautiful, transformative way. Lyrics that Jonathan Davis of Korn and Corey Taylor wrote were so real and honest that it made me look at people who are in pain as people to reach out to and help work through that pain. Seeing that Dr. Siri Sat Sam Singh was also a Marriage and Family Therapist, and therefore would be taking a systems approach, not only intrigued me but also excited me to see how this process was going to unfold.
Of course I could easily make a blog about how brave Corey Taylor was for sharing his story, because of course he was, but I think it’s more important for you, the readers, to understand what it is the therapist was doing in order for you to determine whether it would be helpful for you or not. This is after all about your journey. Most of the time when people see letters after someone’s name there is no explanation as to what they stand for, let alone their meaning. So here is what a Marriage and Family Therapist is – it is someone who is going to look at the whole picture, or system, that a person lives in in order to connect the dots. They are going to pay particular attention to the relationships in a person’s life and how they have been impacted by these relationships. There is also less of an emphasis on diagnosing the symptoms and more of a focus on how they all relate to each other. This is why the therapist was exploring so many areas of Corey’s life, he was trying to bring everything together in order to understand how this person became who they are.
One of the things I liked most about how Dr. Siri Sat Sam Singh conducted the session, was how non-judgmental he was toward Corey. A lot of people mislabel this type of music or are uncomfortable discussing these topics, but a good therapist can handle whatever issues you need to discuss without letting negative biases influence them, which is exactly what we saw in this video. I’m sure if Corey Taylor didn’t feel comfortable with how his therapist was reacting to what he had to say then it would not have been a positive session and would not have ended on a healing note. This is the kind of therapist I hope everyone can have, because this is what therapy is meant to be. If you have had negative experiences with therapists in the past, I hope you will consider trying someone else.
Thank you again for taking the time to read my first blog post. If you are in the Philadelphia area and would like to schedule an appointment to talk about your own healing, then please take a look at my website at www.pathways2healing.org. Also, please feel free to leave any questions or suggestions in the comment section and I will try to answer them as best I can.