Well it has been a while…. but thanks for coming back! As I mentioned in the last post, I planned on talking about the subject of suicide. Originally I thought I would use the show 13 Reasons Why to help parents start a discussion about this difficult topic. However since then we learned that Chester Bennington of Linkin Park tragically took his own life, just a few months after Chris Cornell of Soundgarden and Audioslave did the same thing. As someone who grew up listening to these bands this news was very shocking to hear, which is why I feel so compelled to start an open dialogue about this subject. It’s hard to understand and accept why this would happen and that’s why we need to talk about it.
Words cannot express the pain that comes with this heartbreaking event, but maybe it can serve as a way to open up the conversation involving this dark area of the human experience. It’s impossible to understand, but it’s not impossible to talk about it. Talking about suicide is something I feel that anyone can do but may struggle with. How do you bring up this topic to someone you are worried about? Lots of people have probably had this thought, and the truth is I would be lying to you if I said I had the perfect answer, but I think it is more important to have the courage to want to talk about it. I do not want anyone to feel that by bringing this topic up that they are somehow harming someone they care about. This is something that parents probably struggle with the most. I want to make it clear that in no way are you implanting the idea in anyone’s head, if the idea is there you need to find a way to get it out of the dark and bring it into the light. As terrible as these events are, I would encourage parents to not shy away from using tragedies like these as a reference point to having an open conversation with your son or daughter. Obviously this is easier said than done, which is why it is important to consider seeking professional support on opening up this conversation. This is what people in the mental health profession are there for, and it sets the example that it is okay to get help. If you are in immediate need of this type of help, contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK or visit their website at www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org My hope is that we can learn as a society that suicide is something that needs to be discussed in an open forum because pretending that it doesn’t exist, or that it is a taboo subject is not working. For this is the only way to create real change.
If this post has brought up any questions or concerns for you, please feel free to contact me via e-mail at Kelly@pathways2healing.org. Thank you so much for reading my blog, good luck on your journey until next time we meet.