Hello and Happy New Year! It has been a while since I have written so thank you to anyone who has come back to read this. It is a new year, and new years often signal change. However that does not mean we are finished with last year’s “stuff,” so we all have to find ways to deal with the past in order for us to move on with the future. This can be especially difficult if what we are moving on from isn’t something we are willing to let go of just yet. I saw a perfect example of this in the comedy special by Patton Oswalt: Annihilation. If you are not familiar with his story, he is a comedian who recently lost his wife and in this special he takes us through the grief process that he and his young daughter went through. This is never an easy topic to talk about, but he does it in a very honest and authentic way even though you can tell it is very difficult for him to do.
There are so many things that he talks about in this special, but the one that sticks out the most is a quote from his late wife, Michelle Eileen McNamara, “it’s chaos, be kind.” This was something she would often say to him when they were having philosophical debates about life and trying to make sense of painful situations that people go through. To sum it up, she always felt that life is very chaotic, people struggle, tragedies happen so it is important to just be kind because we don’t know what someone is going through or what could happen next. As we are in the early stages of 2018 I think this message is incredibly important and what we need to keep in mind going forward. The harsh reality is that life can be full of painful situations where we have to make difficult choices, and this is something we all face at one time or another. Michelle’s moto is simple, strive to be a little kinder and maybe it can make our day a little easier. As simple as this sounds it doesn’t mean that it is easy. Since we are human we have a tendency to get lost in our own pain and not see the pain in others. But if we can remember the first part of this quote, “it’s chaos,” then maybe we can have a little more patience for ourselves and others, making painful situations slightly easier to handle.
Another part of this show that I really liked was Patton Oswalt’s honesty about the journey through the grief process that he and his daughter went on. It is never easy to lose someone but it can be especially difficult for a child to lose their parent. As the surviving parent, Patton Oswalt was looked at as the one to lead them both through this process, obviously never an easy task. However he showed that with a little help and support it can be done. In a way, this makes his late wife’s favorite saying all the more true, “it’s chaos, be kind.”
Well thank you again to anyone who took the time to read this til the end, I hope it helped you in some way. If you would like to learn more about Pathways 2 Healing please like us on facebook at www.facebook.com/Pathways2Healing otherwise, good luck on your journey until we meet again.